‘Let’s
have a baby’, is one statement that changes lives forever. It is one of those
huge decisions that changes everything we have hitherto known.
Most
people get married whether by choice or by parental decree and get officially
ready to start a family by producing children. But more often than not, the
most ignored factor remains the psychological readiness of the couple. In fact,
it is the most important factor in determining one’s readiness to take on the
major responsibility of parenting a child.
Parenting
involves the future of our future generations. That is why having children is
not just a hobby and should not remain a mere accident. Becoming parents
involves a major change in lifestyle and we must be absolutely ready for it.
Our
society romanticizes the images of parenthood so much that we set very high
expectations from it. It is true that parenting is a lot of fun but it is also
a lot of hard work; more work than we can imagine until we become parents
ourselves.
Parenting
is a lifelong project and if we are not truly prepared for it, it can give us
more headaches than joy. Besides the demand on our time, energy, emotions and
resources, parenting brings up our own emotional issues squarely in our face,
as children end up pushing all our emotional buttons. The mistakes we make as
parents affect the ones we love the most; our children.
Most
of us have been brought up to expect that one day we will become parents but no
one has ever told us how important it is to heal ourselves before bringing in a
new life. Unless we heal our own inner wounds, we are not ready to bring
forward any children. Before we parent new children, we must parent the child
within; because unless we do that, we’ll end up passing on our own
insecurities, fears and complexities to our children.
Since
parenting is a joint venture, both the partners must be in complete agreement
to shoulder this onerous responsibility with joy and honor.
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